Like most girls, you probably want to "do the right thing," but what happens when the right thing isn't clear.
Does decision making make you nervous, or do you welcome the challenge?
Here's a little quiz you can take below.
Each question is followed by three (3) solutions - A, B or C. Choose the response that most closely matches what you would do.
Then find out what that choice says about you :)
Quiz - Decisions, Decisions
Question #1. Your best friend keeps pressuring you to do things that your parents wouldn't want you to do. When you tell her that you're not allowed, she says something like, "They'll never know," or "I guess I'm not important enough to you." You don't want to lose her friendship, but you're not sure you can take it anymore.
What would you do?
A. Tell Her Off - Say, "Look, if you really are my friend, why are you pressuring me to do things I don't want to do? It's really annoying, and I wish you would stop it." Don't be mean; just be straight forward. She'll get the message.
B. Use Humor - I know what you are going through because I have a friend who's always telling me to do something I shouldn't. I always tell her no and give her a funny excuse. She always laughs and ends up forgetting about it.
C. Hit the Road - Just get a new friend. It will save you from getting into trouble.
Question # 2. You just found out that your sister smokes! You saw her smoking with a friend at the mall. One of your friends says that you shouldn't tell your parents because your sister would never forgive you.
What would you do?
A. Confront your sister - This is going to be tough no matter what you do. First, you should talk to your sister and let her know that you saw her smoking. Tell her that if she doesn't tell your parents, you will. this gives your sister a chance to explain things to them.
B. Start a Conversation - Some time at dinner, start up a conversation about smoking. This could lead to more discussion and your sister could decide to quit or tell your parents the truth.
C. Tell Your Parents - No matter how angry your sister gets, it's important to tell your parents. Smoking can lead to serious lung disease and heart failure. If you tell your parents, maybe they can prevent your sister from becoming addicted.
Question # 3. One of your friends owes you $10. When you try to ask her for it, she laughs and ignores you. It has been a while, and you know she has the money.
What would you do?
A. Be Persistent- Don't let her get away with this! When she tries to change the subject, change it right back. Don't be rude or mean, but let her know that you mean business!
B. Bill Her- Even though you two are friends and you like to be generous, you have to draw the line somewhere. Give her a formal bill and give her a week. If she doesn't pay up, start charging her interest.
C. Turn Her In - Warn her that if she doesn't pay up, you will talk to her parents. If she still doesn't pay up, call her parents or tell her mom. And next time, don't lend her money!!
Question # 4. There is a girl in your class who is very tall. A lot of the boys call her names when the teacher is not around. You tell them that they wouldn't like it if they got teased, but they just say, "Who cares?" or "Shut up."
What would you do?
A. Stick Up For Her - These boys are total dorks, and you need to tell them who's who. Confront these boys, and don't let baby talk get in the way. "Who cares?" is an easy question to answer. Say, "I care, and I'm going to do something about this!"
B. Help her Help Herself - It sounds as if this girl is afraid to stand up for herself. Maybe you can encourage her to tell those boys that she won't take the teasing.
C. Tell the Teacher - What you are doing to stop these boys is nice, but if you really want to help this girl out, you should tell a teacher or another person in charge. They can help take care of the problem.
Ok...so count up your answers
A's _____________ B's _______________ C's ______________
Mostly A's means - you've got an opinion and you're not afraid to share it. You enjoy being the leader and fighting for what's right. Friends think you're intense and passionate. Other girls look to you when they're unsure of what to do. You can be loyal to those you care about. It's easy for you to set boundaries with others and let them know how you feel. Work hard to have an open mind and really listen to others points of view. That way you'll earn the respect of your friends!
Mostly B's means - you have the ability to see things from a unique perspective. When it comes to untangling even the most complicated problems, you usually come up with a solution. Creativity is your strength. Others look to you because you're interesting, funny and have something special to offer. Be open to other's ideas too. Be sure to find ways to let your creative energy flow out. Write in a journal or make an art project that symbolizes what you're feeling.
Mostly C's - in a sticky situation, you opt to be safe, not sorry. When faced with a decision, you worry about doing the right thing and are quick to ask for hlep. You can be courageous when you have to be, like when ending a friendship you believe is harmful. But most of the time, you call on someone older and wiser to help you out of a jam. Try giving yourself a chance to come up with a plan or work through the small stuff on your own. It will help you prepare for the big stuff down the road.
Until Next Time...